I would like to assign a true story as an adjunct to my previous post. I have a friend who is 50 years old. He and his wife have a great life with each other. The kids are grown and now it is the time for them to enjoy their life, their pleasures.
In fact, my friend, let me call him Josh for lack of a better name, purchased a big ole’ hot tub last year, and recently an expensive motor cycle. These are the rewards he deserves after 30 years of being a good Husband and Father. 50 and ready to live life fully: spoiling the Grandkids and traveling with his wife.
Josh has a step daughter named, Tina. Tina has had numerous problems with drug addiction. She has an eight year old daughter who is in the custody of her sister and twins that are 1 year old. The husband is an f –up and not able to care for the children. He is what the system might call an absentee Father. Tina was living in a treatment facility with her children; the rules indicated that she could stay and receive treatment if she could pass her mandated drug testing. 2 weeks ago she was kicked out for not being able to pass – 3 times in a row.
The State took the babies away from her and was going to place them in Foster Care. The provisions being that Tina needs to stay clean for 6 months or the children would fully enter the Foster System and be put up for adoption. Josh and his wife know that Tina is not going to be able to do this.
They are now faced with a really hard decision. These kids are blood. They have the money to take care of them – how can they let them go into the foster care of strangers? So at 50 years old, they do what they feel is the only choice and right thing and take custody of these two small children. I am sure that they love the babies, but let’s be honest; the life that they were planning is now over.
It is not just the children who are victims of parents who should never have even considered having children. The Grandparents and family members of these unfit parents are also victims. I once again want to state that I strongly believe that there are some people who should NOT BE ALLOWED to have children. This is a big problem and it is not being addressed. The government can tell McDonalds, Burger King and Starbucks that we are too stupid to know about fat grams and to change their menus. The government can spit in the face of separation of church and State and tell us who can pray and who can’t in schools. The government can tap our phone lines and ransack our homes without warrants. The government can advocate abstinence all it wants but it will never happen. If the government wants to stick its nose in our business why not do it by supplying condoms and parenting classes for pregnant woman and their mates.
“Josh”, if you read this I want to let you know that you and your wife are Heroes. A lot of people would not have taken on this responsibility, I am proud of you both!