Friday, September 15, 2006

Bait the Line...




I was watching the Prime Time expose last night on children who have taken school yard bullying to a new level with the internet. The story was based around a mentally fragile boy who killed himself after being taunted by girl classmates and encouraged by a blogger friend.

This is a video that condenses the story.

Part of the story focused on an “in” group of girls who were challenged to create personas and then interact on line with some college guys and then with another group of “nerd” teenage girls who were acting under the same instruction.

What I found interesting is that under the cloak of anonymity these girls were so mean to each other that they ended up shocking themselves. This went for the “in” and “out” crowd equally. The college guys were really surprised with the adult proactive nature of interaction with these girls who were all around 13-15 years old. In fact I think you might call their reaction unnerved. You simply never know who you are interacting with.

Also interestingly the boy who killed himself I believe he was only 12 or so, knew the identity of his tormenters. When interviewed one of the girls who taunted him admitted that she really did not know that what she was doing was having such a detrimental effect as in many ways it seemed like it was all make believe as nothing was tangible but the words.

The girls given the challenge to create personas were not told to be mean. There was almost a mob mentality created. All it took was for one group to step over the line to set the standard for the ensuing cruelty.

When I have anonymous commentators on this site who feel the need to get a rise out of me, I actually find it quite amusing. I assume that they are amused as well, or why spend the time doing it?

Not as a lecturing point, simply a point in principal, please remember that the adage of sticks and stones does not apply to everyone. There are people who take this seriously and who then can be seriously damaged.

Ya also just never know when what goes around is coming for you...

11 comments:

Woozie said...

There's a kid who when you type his name The Tome is the #1 search result on Google, who told me that if he ever brought a gun to school that I'd be the first to die.

Anonymous said...

Do you know where I can send that kid a check?

Anonymous said...

That is correct. I am amused. Mainly by your inability to amuse.

dlkjdfsa said...

I love the philosophy of "sticks and stones." If you can't take criticism you shouldn't be bloggin in the first place, but threats are threats regardless if it's physical or verbal. With all the wacko's bringing guns to school I would start wearing a vest woosie.

Raspootin said...

Woozie,

You are a smart guy, please let your parents know about this.

I was very moved by what I saw on Prime Time.

I hate it. I sure went though it all faces to face, but I do hate that this type of hate crime is happening to children.

Woozie - you are more mature than any adult I know, but if you sense anything is wrong, I repeat, tell your parents.

Raspootin said...

Welcome back South Slayer,

You may want to note the incredibly brilliant conspiracy theory written in your honor on the Nicole post!

The Reverend Jon Boles said...

I try to refrain from being too overly harsh, but sometimes when my temper gets up, I can't help but post with a little more vitriol. For instance, I will converse on a topic to the point I'm weary of it without ever really getting pissed. I only really lose my temper when someone accuses me of being a liar, full of shit, etc without proving me wrong. I'm pretty thick skinned for the most part--after all, with a lot of my views, I have to be. However, I always prefer for someone to go the intelligent route and prove me wrong instead of opting for the ad hominem approach.

Gina M said...

Hey Nancy! What's up??

Woozie said...

I don't think he means it, he just says things when he's angry that he doesn't mean.

Anonymous said...

I do too, but I mean them.

Raspootin said...

Reverend Jon,

I think that we share a commonality with our approaches.